in life, many things that you faced will cause you to make a certain choice that you think is the best for yourself. sometimes, you just want things to be just what you expected. but there are always many other obstructions just don't allow it to happen.
came across an article in yahoo and read it since i have nothing better to do. so it says: do you have a choice of who to love or love just happens? to think about it, many people will say, well, love just happens, isn't it? love is a feeling that you can't deny or run away from. when you are attracted to that person, you are. but then, how long does this kind of love last? 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? this feeling will fade. in my perspective, it will. the thing is not about the feeling love but is about loving this particular person is your choice. a choice that you made to love this person other than the feeling that you have. love is about understanding and accepting the other person. it may not be everything. nobody is perfect. it is how much you are willing to accept. taking our parents as example, a couple that fell in love till they got married and lived together for 20 odd years. how did they do it? honestly, i don't think is that love feeling. it could be but to live together and accept whatever and whoever your spouse is, is a decision that each party made to enter into the next phase of life. my dad snores every night and i couldn't take it at all. but my mum, she accepted that and live with it. if it was me, most probably i will kick him out of the room. hahaha! in other words, to find a guy and get into a relationship is not difficult but to find a guy whom you are willing to live the rest of your life with him and accepting whatever nonsense he has is not easy at all. but well, everyone will meet that right one at the right time and you will know that he/she is the one. yeah and agreed to love can't be forced. you can love a person so deeply but you can't force the person you love to love you back. there is a saying in chinese, 有緣无分. exactly how some relationships will end.
another issue that came into my mind was that not everyone will marry the person that you really love. to be honest. i think it's true. from a girl's point of view, think about this: will you choose a guy that you really loved but he might not have a stable income or a guy that you may not love him as much as the other guy but he can give you a safe and warm home? how much are you willing to go for love over bread and shelter?
interestingly how one article makes me think so much.. love is something that will come unknowingly and you will just blindly fall into the trap. that's why there is such thing as love is blind. hahaha.. well, what really matters is how much are you willing to love this particular person and that this person is the person whom you are willing to give everything to? something to ponder and i believe everyone will find your answer someday.......